Family arguments, sibling rivalries, break ups, road rage… what is a healthy relationship between two parties or individuals? It can be a difficult term to define, especially in today’s society where people tend to have a short temper with more inclination for instant gratification and likelihood of leaning toward some form of addictive behavior as an unhealthy coping mechanism. When your loved one enters recovery and you begin the process of rebuilding a relationship with them, you may want to be best prepared for any roadblocks you may face along the way.
Understanding Relationships and Conflicts
When trying to determine what is a healthy relationship after you and your loved one have had a foundation based solely off themes of selfishness, self-centeredness, fear, and dishonesty, you should remain aware at all times of checking both of your motives. It can be extremely tough to try to see both sides, but remembering that there are always two versions to every story will get you further than believing only what you see through your own sight and vice versa. A healthy relationship is going to require good communication skills. This means that you and your loved one are going to need to listen to each other, speak with one another to discuss matters, not leave a room angry if a dispute happens to ever erupt, respect each other’s privacy, discuss boundaries, go over some guidelines, and talk about your wants and needs.
Dealing with Character Defects
Character defects seem to come in full bloom in all types of relationships because the more people are surrounded by one another, the greater the magnification of their defects of character is to others and even more noticeable to themselves. When you are surrounded with others, you are in constant friction of one another’s defects and if your negativity rubs off on one another, you both transcend the unpleasant aura. A healthy relationship will also be one in which one party isn’t trying to raise the other’s but both parties are actively in support of one another. The recovering alcoholic and/or addict may be struggling at times, so this is where you may need to be patient with them. Try not get discouraged with them, but also be wary of not enabling them and inadvertently thrusting them back into self-seeking behaviors that amplifies that root of their selfish disease mindset.
There’s a lot to keep in mind when it comes to what is a healthy relationship. Communication is key, but trust is another major factor here. When your loved one was active in addiction, they may have tarnished a level of trust, which is slowly being rebuilt. This may come over time. Don’t put pressure on it. This is something that action will speak more to than words.
Is your loved one still actively and regularly abusing alcohol and/or drugs without the ability to stop? Contact for help today because it could save your loved one’s life now.