It seems people struggle to communicate effectively whether they are in recovery from alcohol and drugs or not. Communication is an essential human tool for living, allowing the needs of others to be understood. When a loved one is recovering from addiction, the process of communication can seem rocky at first, but there are ways to connect with one another that allow both of you to get each others points across in a conductive manner.
Communicate Effectively with Your Loved One
When you know there is an important matter that you need to address with your loved one in recovery and you want to be sure you communicate effectively, approach them at an appropriate time. If you are trying to reach them with a serious conversation at an inconvenient time, you might want to reconsider saving the discussion for a later date. Another aspect to consider when an appropriate allotted time can be made is not rushing the conversation to fit crammed in during a selected amount of time. Because of such a heavy subject matter, the time is deserving of as much seriousness and vigorous respect as possible.
By sharing and expressing what you need, you will present a clear outline of your expectations while leaving the door open for your loved one to tell of what their necessities are from you in the relationship. When the two of you can be open and honest with one another at this level, you begin to be authentic with each other and develop a relationship where you can share how you truly feel without judgement. This is where compassion comes into play. Sharing genuine feelings should help in preventing major arguments down the road about how needs were not met because now you both know what your needs are. It’s all about taking action and working on doing them since you are aware of them. Making time to actually listen to one another is going to be a vital component that strengthens the relationship because it shows that you care about what each other desire and that you can be attentive. Showing consideration for others takes you outside of yourself and away from self-centeredness. When you are able to get outside of your own thoughts, you will be more focused on what you can do for those around you, reinforcing how important communication is in a relationship.
Picking up on subtle cues can help when your loved one is having a hard time being verbal. Recovering individuals may have off days where they may not be as inclined to share what’s going on in their lives. Noticing their shrugs, when they appear upset or bland, or how they turn away can help you better understand their willingness to open up. Don’t pressure them to speak with you when they aren’t ready because getting them to speak prematurely can complicate delicate situations. Your loved one is in a fragile state and in order for you both to communicate effectively; you are going to need to be patient with them. Instead, be aware of their body language and trust that they will come to you over time when you show them love and support along the way.
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