For some people, holidays are viewed as a wonderful opportunity for families to spend time together and rejoice, but yet for others, they can be seen as dreadfully painful occasions. When it comes to the families, significant others, and friends of addicts, in particular, holidays can be brutal, whether their loved one is in early recovery or still actively abusing their drug of choice. Father’s Day, which is right around the corner as it approaches this weekend, can be very emotional, not just for fathers and sons but for the entire family as well.
Are you a father?
It can hurt not to be near your child, especially on a day where appreciation should be drawn to you. If your child is away in treatment working to build a solid foundation of recovery, then try to remind yourself how positive of an achievement that is. If you end up hearing from your child, then that is great! But if not, don’t get too worked up and upset over it. They honestly need to focus on their recovery and make it their priority. There will be many more years to come when you can be together to celebrate holidays as a family, and hopefully by then, your child will be in a completely different head space much healthier.
Are you a son?
This may be extremely frustrating for you, but if your father is not with you this Father’s Day because he is in treatment, try to be supportive by contacting him over the phone or through mail. Encouragement from family, especially from children, is both extremely important and helpful in the process of recovery. Even if your father has made some poor choices or treated you unfairly, you should try to leave all negativity behind, if only for the day, in order to wish him well properly. After all, your father being in treatment shows that he wants to work on himself, which hopefully means that he will one day make amends and be able to rectify the harm he may have caused.
Are you worried about your loved one being in active addiction?
You may be worried about your father or child being in active addiction, and on what day could it hurt more than on Father’s Day? It’s okay to feel upset because it’s a normal reaction that you would have even more concern over your loved ones overall health and well-being on a day that is dedicated to the apprciation of fathers. If you are able to contact them, you should. Even if his judgement is clouded brought on by the role his frequent use of a substance plays, they may still appreciate that you care.
Family relationships can be trying for some, particularly when it comes to holidays pertaining to members of the family like Father’s Day. Make sure you have other family or friends to be around to rejoice appropriately. If things are moving along well with your loved one’s recovery, then that is even more to celebrate about, but if not, there is no need to worry because recovery is a process that takes time. Whether the relationship between you and your loved one is non-existent or just a little vicious, there is a great chance for the relationship to reform in a much healthier manner.