When you were active in your addiction drinking and abusing drugs heavily, it’s not absurd to assume that you questioned what the driving force was for your character defects. Now that you’re recovering from your addiction to alcohol and/or drugs, it should be apparent how self-centered fear caused you to react in certain ways. With this, taking a deeper look at the bigger question can help you get down to the causes and conditions to do some character building: what are you afraid of after all?
What Fear Keeps Stopping You?
Fear can take many alcoholics and addicts back out to drinking and/or abusing drugs because they live in the feeling that prevents them from living their newfound way of life in sobriety. It instead keeps them trapped. Where do these fears come from and how can understanding what are you afraid of actually help in correcting your self-centered fear problem? Coming out of self-denial and acknowledging these fears can help to remove the power they hold over you. It can take the weight off your shoulders that they may be putting on your life, which may be putting pressure on you and ultimately making you vulnerable as a ticking time-bomb for relapsing on the addiction you have to substances.
Fear of failure
Nested deep within a fear of failure can be a past of having been raised by parents that overlooked your behavior and anything you produced. Having extremely critical parents may have toppled over into your adulthood and now you are suffering the consequences because you may be overly concerned about not measuring up to the rest of the world.
Fear of the opinions of others
There may be a fear about what other people think, but this needs to be let go. It can come from wanting to control what other people think inside their brain about you, but realizing that your part in this is based off self-centeredness can help you come out of this. The reality is that other people aren’t as focused on you as you think.
Fear of harm
Self-centeredness could have told you that the world was out to get you so in order to protect yourself you HAD to be perfect. There could never be an excuse for anyone to mock and ridicule you or put you to shame. Letting go of this is another important part of moving forward.
Letting go of fear
Ultimately, fear caused debilitating emotions to overwhelm you and you sought out substances as a way to numb yourself. Fear is powerful; it’s a great offender that can take over entirely by keeping you from living your life. When you’re n addict and/or alcoholic, you cannot afford to be living in fear around the clock. Now if you are not carefully keeping yourself in check in your recovery program, you put yourself at risk of being susceptible to slipping back to a life covered up in substances where you turn off your emotions and hide from the world.
The reality is that you don’t have to go on living like this anymore because you can face the truth and come outside of your own self-centeredness. Fear is a negative driving force that can keep you as an alcoholic and/or addict sick in your disease but when you strive toward continuing this newfound life in recovery, you move forward with the promises of freedom and joy. When it comes down to it, you don’t have to let fear overwhelm you and take control over your life. You can instead focus on the matter when you bring it to surface and that way you won’t suffer the consequences of letting it take you down.