Keeping promises may seem like an uphill battle for you as an alcoholic and/or addict, especially when having to make a commitment to yourself. It can be overwhelming when you set your expectations to specific outcomes. Not to mention how difficult it can when you’re in early recovery for an addiction to alcohol and/or drugs and dealing with control issues!
Why It’s Important
Implementing the change to work on honoring your word can prove to provide you the inner dignity and respect that paves way for you as a sober individual in society. So, how exactly do you manage to keep your word to yourself? By treating the promise seriously, following through with it, and making sure you meet the requirements for the commitment, you will be well on your way for when it comes to keeping promises.
A Promise Is A Contract
Making a promise with yourself should be treated seriously, like a contract, especially if it comes to your recovery program. When active in addiction, you were willing to go to any lengths to get substances, so make a commitment to yourself to do the same for your recovery. You should be willing to take suggestions and build a network of sober supports.
Following through with your promises is vital. Anybody can talk the talk but not everybody can walk the walk. It’s one thing to make a promise, but actually keeping your word and seeing it through to the finish is what makes the difference.
Commitment To Yourself
Making sure you have the requirements to fulfill keeping promises to yourself is important. If you know you can’t keep the commitment to yourself, don’t set yourself up for failure. Don’t be so hard on yourself either. Misjudgment that addicts and alcoholics are typically known for can be explained as giving up on committing to keeping promises because of having the preconceived notion of failing. Don’t avoid making a commitment because you’re under the assumption you’ll fail. Talk your fears over with a sponsor or sober support first.
What does it really mean to make a commitment to yourself in recovery? Making a commitment to yourself in recovery means you put value into your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. It means you appreciate the inner and divine you. You unconditionally love yourself and see that you are worthy of honor and respect. You owe it to yourself to keep a promise and to value your commitments to yourself. Start with small goals like getting up at the same time every day or reading a page of a book each night. One step at a time can help a man move up a mountain. Promises to yourself deal with integrity, which is defined as honoring your word. This is taken seriously because individuals who stick by their word are people who are reliable and accountable. These are people who say what they mean and mean what they say. When people honor their integrity, they gain dignity.
When you were active in your disease, you were selfish. The actions you committed affected others. You couldn’t see how you hurt others and yet you were likely the chief critic of them. Judging the world around you can often mean you were being hard on yourself. Now you are left with having to rebuild an inner trust with yourself first which will set the foundation for relationships and solidify true authentic friendships. Getting a trusting relationship with yourself can seem like a tall order but it’s a process much like keeping promises is. Remember when it comes to being able to keep commitments to yourself, you have to hold yourself accountable by taking it seriously through treating it like a contract, moving forward with the promise by taking action, and understanding what is required of commitments.
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